I think people spend their lives whittling away at who they are until they're the person they want to be. When you write, you get to explore who you might have been if you hadn't shed those skins, if circumstances had been different. Every character I write is me, just not the me I choose to be.
I live for the HEA and am constantly striving to improve my craft. Social media is the only place I connect with my peeps, so I rely on it for feedback about writing and the writing life.